Today is the birthday of someone that is very important to me. So, I’m going to re-purpose part of my blog post from a year ago (it was from 10/12, but you’ll get my point) to start this post. It went like this:
So, I won’t say how old she is, but it’s seven years younger than me and I’ll be 45 in November. She’s my only natural sibling although, as I’ve mentioned we do have a brother. She and I haven’t always gotten along and there were some real rough patches through the years (mainly much younger times) but now we get along great as long as we don’t spend more than a few hours together at a time. That’s not her fault. Well, really it’s not mine, either. I think it’s genetics. We’re each as much “smart arse” as the other and when the two should meet (and really they shouldn’t) it’s like a chemical reaction. So, after a few hours, one of us usually leaves and it lets the reaction go away. It’s like putting the plutonium rods back in the water. Simmer down, now!
None of those things have changed except one: we actually do spend a decent amount of time together, now. Still, it isn’t as much as I’d like. But, isn’t that how life goes – get to a point where you want to spend time together and life and scheduling makes it hard? She and my bro-in-law have started a new biz, she’s subbing in school, she has two teenage boys and the list goes on. She just doesn’t have time for me. That is a complete and utter fabrication. I’m busier than that and my schedule isn’t very convenient to outside activities. Rarely are our two schedules able to cross paths. However, I must say that I am at least thankful that we get what time we do.
As far as not getting along, I think we’re both older (much in her case… just kidding) and tired (definitely in mine) and just want to sit back and enjoy what we got, the time, the experiences, the life, all of it. We’ve not really had an argument in quite a long time and if we have, it mustn’t have been too bad or important because I can’t remember what it is or was. And, I don’t care. I like where we are and I’ll just stick with that. The BCPF and I get to go out with them later this month as they’re going to a wine dinner with us at DiLisio’s. I’m excited about that. I love when we get time with her and the B-I-L. They’re cool to hang with, I say.
So, Sis, as I always say, Happy solar circumnavigational anniversary day, I love you and no matter what words I put down here, it will never, ever be truly indicative of what you mean to me. Hope it’s a great and wonderful one (the next one will be a doozie).
Until tomorrow, same blog channel…
“A sister is both your mirror – and your opposite.“ – Elizabeth Fishel