Today, I had the opportunity to have an impromptu lunch with a friend. We’re not close friends but I’d call her a good friend. She was checking out and I was walking into the Official Sponsor of Tart & Tangy Triad, Washington Perk. I went back to get a sandwich and a bottle of water like I do every Monday and she was standing there eating her grab-and-go lunch just to say hey and ask how The BCPF was doing. Her sandwich was a bit messy so I recommended we sit in the window and eat our lunch. We talked about what we did this weekend, how the fams were, high school reunions (actually we talked about those for a while) and our roles in planning some of them. Then, like that, lunch was over and we went about our business.
The point is, that was just a good feeling to live in a town where people can run into each other in a corner grocer and sit and just talk about next-to-nothing and just enjoy the company. We’ve had discussions about business before but this was just socializing (yeah, we’ve done that, too, but not enough). It also makes me think that I need to find time to just socialize with friends. I have a lot of people that I would call friends but I rarely get to talk to them. Sure, we may send a passing note on Facebook, or whatever, but not actually just sitting and talking. When that does happen, it’s usually about business.
It doesn’t take more than reading a week’s worth of posts on this lovely blog, Dear Reader, to know that I completely fill my week with stuff. Stuff from podcasts, voice overs, video production, writing blogs, writing articles, planning vacations for clients, booking vacations for clients, Ubering, being a husband, being a Dad and the list goes on. But, the moment that I get too busy for life’s acquaintances, I lose part of who I am and what made me that way. One of my favorite expressions, one that I made up, by the way, is “we are our experiences.” Our experiences are, of course what we do, but many times, it’s who we do them with, for or because of. Sometimes, the most provocative revelations and epiphanies are from the most minor of things. I can still remember things that I did with my friends in West Virginia when we just sat around talking about stuff, not necessarily what we did. I remember a lot of that, too, but to me the power comes from the small stuff. I think we’d all be better people in a better society if we spent more time together talking about nothing or things that matter instead of sitting on Facebook or Twitter and cutting each other over political and religious views that matter only to the person doing the arguing. Take some time to sit with a friend and talk about nothing. “How’s your hubby?” “How’s the kids?” “Have you seen that article about this?” “Have you heard that new song by Taylor Swift?” “You like who!?” Whatever. Don’t be strangers. Talk. Communicate. Enjoy others. Keep open minds. Debate (not argue). Live. Live. Live!
Until tomorrow, same blog channel…
“The more elaborate our means of communication, the less we communicate.” – Joseph Priestly